This New Jersey Divorce Attorney was long in the making. You know how we remember just a handful of moments before the age of seven? Well I am going to share one of them in order to answer the question, “Why did I become a lawyer?”
It was a Sunday afternoon in 1976. I remember it was a Sunday because my dad was home and that was his only day off from work during the week. Me, my big sister and our parents were playing Monopoly. My dad then decided to teach me a life lesson in “business.” To that end, I traded him Park Place (he already had Boardwalk) for a Railroad. Shortly thereafter, I landed on Boardwalk where my dad had placed a few houses. I then came to realize that I had been railroaded (pun intended) and bankrupt. I flew out of my chair, locked myself in the bathroom and refused to come out.
My next memory is hearing my mother going off on my father. Why would you do that? Look what we have now? He is just a little boy! You have ruined another Sunday! (My family still quotes lines from All in the Family). Once she was done there, then she began her campaign to encourage me to come out of the bathroom. In my mom’s sweetest voice a laundry list of promises came through the doorway: Disney, a Yankee game, spaghetti, pizza … anything she knew I loved (and still do lol).
Finally, my mom’s powers of persuasion prevailed and I opened the door. With my mom looming over me, she pointed down and affirmatively stated, “When you grow up you are going to be a lawyer because you are a sore loser and that means you are a winner!” Well folks, the rest is history.
Now, as a New Jersey Family Lawyer, it is problematic to determine what a “win” is in my practice area. Certainly, when I prevail in a New Jersey domestic violence trial, this is a clear-cut victory, so to speak. Still while I have protected my client, many times a family is still in chaos. Of course, when I obtain a fair (or more than fair) financial settlement for my client that should be deemed as a success as well. However, a true “win” for me is when I am able to protect the best interests of children. Knowing that I successfully defended the rights of a child is why I remain passionate about being a lawyer after all of these years. It is what helps me get out of bed in the morning. When I return home in the evening, I am proud that I made a difference in a child’s life. Practicing family law is a complex and difficult endeavor. However, knowing that I played a major role in making sure a child is now out of harm’s way makes it is all worth. Thank you mom … I could not have done it without you.